Most of the people you know have a strong opinion of you. Whether they express it or not, they have an opinion about your gifts, your desires and more importantly, what you have the ability to become. Because we are at least, partially driven by the need for affirmation, to often give power to the opinions from others as if they are gospel, when in reality their opinions are nothing more than their own collection of fragmented thoughts, based on observed information, then filtered through the limits of their understanding. In other words, it is near impossible for a person to truly believe for you beyond what they believe about you. Therefore you will forever be judged and perceived according to the limits of their thinking concerning you. If you accept those opinions of you as fact and affirmation, you are destine to underachieve. In fact, you don’t have to accept anyone’s opinions of you anymore than you have to accept McDonald’s putting onions on your burger if you don’t want them. No matter what is said about you, your gifts, your desires, your potential, whether it be good or bad, you simply do not have to accept if it doesn’t fit where you are going.

So today, accept a higher opinion of you; one that is divine and is congruent with what God thinks about you and free yourself from the opinion of others. Find people that will affirm those beliefs about you and free yourself from the rest.

Your greatest deliverance has happened when u become free from the people who held you captive to their limitations.

Wake Up Ur Dream


If you are genuinely a solid person, the discipline to maintain your authenticity is key to enduring difficult times. You will regret any  negative adjustments you’ve allowed in your character thinking it will help get you through a difficult season. Remember that seasons always pass, and when the season is gone what will be remembered is not the season, but your compromised character.

IF you are an authentically solid person, don’t give it away in a season of difficulty. Be careful how you vent; how you express your displeasure; the words you say to those you love; and be mindful of performing any behaviors that you may later regret. Maintain your discipline so that the real you will always, authentically be revealed, even through difficult moments.


I had an interesting experience watching a kids basketball game the other day. As it is with 8/9 year old boys, they can have enormous variations in height and weight. Well, there was one kid who was taller and bigger than all the rest of the kids on either team. I mean he was a ‘biggin’ as they would say in the South, and had good skills. He could of scored nearly every time he touched the ball in that game because no one could guard him. However, he was such a kind hearted kid, that he’d take a shot here and there and pass the ball around to the others for them to take shots. They fell behind in the first half of the game and I was, like most parents in the gym that day yelling and screaming (in a healthy way of course) to him “shoot the ball” or “Take the shot!” Sometimes he’d shoot it, sometimes he’d pass.

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Question for the day: How would your friendships be affected if you became whole in your broken areas?

Brokeness is a fact of life. However, one, of many reasons why we stay broken is because some of the people in our lives allow us to stay so. Here is a tough truth: in some ways, our ‘friends’ benefit from our brokeness- whether it gives them a sense of purpose in our lives; gives them a commonality with us, or what have you. Nonetheless, it is possible for a person to root for your wholeness but not have the ability to contribute to it. What do you do when the people close to you can no longer help make you a better you in a significant way? What are your options if the people closest to you have contributed to you becoming stagnant, less upwardly mobile, and consistently broken?

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Being strong all the time can be a weakness. Sadness, sorrow, disappointment and grief all play a vital role in healthy emotions. These are the emotions that help your mind and body release perceived negative happenings. Its not healthy to consistently refuse these emotions under the guise of ‘being strong.’ If you do, your end will lead to bitterness and a lack of emotion.

But also, I warn, don’t be controlled by them either-prolonged seasons of these emotions need to be dealt with or will lead to depressions. Instead, communicate during your difficult times; talk to friends/loved ones, journal, and/or pray.

Remember: there is a “time and season” for everything. Be aware of it when it comes, and free it when it goes…

Ecc 3:1