Terrell Fletcher - Blog

I challenge you to be more and more selfless everyday. Do something nice for someone today whether you think they deserve it or not and blow them away with kindness. You will help someone, feel great about yourself, and receive huge rewards from the ‘great rewarder’ when you do!

A few weeks ago, I went to a children’s party to celebrate my friend’s third birthday. The jumpy houses, face paint, and potty training mishaps were indeed sensory overload for me! In the middle of the chaos and infantile bliss, I noticed four children playing. One of the them was disabled and couldn’t manage the bustle in the same way the others could. Watching the three children help and assist their friend was one of the most heartfelt moments of the party. They did not have pity nor consider themselves inconvenienced by their friend’s disability, but instead adjusted to make sure everyone, including their disabled friend, was having fun. I wonder what life would be like if we were more like those children?

In one of my favorite Christian stories, Jesus is asked which of the commandments was the most important, to which he replied, “the most important is that you should love the Lord with all your heart, mind, and soul, BUT the second command is as important as the first, ‘that you love your neighbor as yourself,’ (Mark 12:30-31). Jesus equates one’s genuine relationship to God with how genuinely and selflessly we handle one another day to day, which means putting others first.

Putting others first is extremely difficult, especially if they aren’t family or friends, or have different beliefs, ethnicity or cultural expressions. But having a pure heart means you look beyond these surface qualities and respond to a human being; a person with feelings, emotions, and desires just like your own. Every person hurts, misses marks, and has legitimate emotional needs to be accepted and loved by the world around them. The idea of approaching people with a consciousness toward our shared humanity is at the center of selflessness. You will never treat someone as yourself if you perceive their needs to be fundamentally different than your own, which they are not.

The amazing effect of selfless action is the power of reciprocity contained in it. Selfless actions reciprocate the goodness selflessness brings. Our selfless gestures are noticed by someone beyond the people we serve: “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and He will repay him for his deed” (Proverbs 19:17). The big man upstairs honors our selfless actions and even promises to intervene on the repayment plan. He guarantees your reciprocal repayment on behalf of the persons who cannot! Wow! That means our natural investments garner divine repayments. And the good thing about a divine repayment is that it comes as exactly what you need, when you need it. That’s a pretty good rate of return if you ask me!