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How is your journey to transformation coming along? Today, I want to emphasize that very rarely is transformation without it’s mistakes and missteps. Moments of weakness are natural, so don’t get discouraged!

I love hard candies, and I’m in a constant battle against my sweet tooth. My dentist agrees and has challenged me to cut way back on the sweets. So, I put a plan together to manage my sugar craving and even went so far as to study why people crave sugar and how I can curb my cravings. I must admit I’ve been doing pretty good for over a year. However, for the past three days, I’ve found myself chowing down on things that are totally against my health goals! It forced me to take a step back and identify my trigger and put a halt to it to get back on track. I’m sharing my story with you because slip-ups happen and I want you to know it’s okay.

Transformation is not about perfection, it’s about direction. If occasionally you misstep, get yourself back on track and keep moving in the right direction. The most important piece to this phase of #Transformation is not giving up!

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If you’ve been keeping up with this transformation blog series, by now you’ve written your vision statement, charted a specific path to your transformation, and begun to break the patterns that are not serving your journey to fulfillment. Congratulations on your progress! Now its time to focus on consistent action towards your goals.

Keeping your behavior consistent with your vision is a daily effort which must be tracked if you’re going to truly transform your life. Tracking helps you stay in touch with your goals and focused on your progress, as well as identify obstacles and avoid missteps.

A few easy ways to track your consistency is to start a written journal or find an app or online tool to track your goals and progress as well as your feelings. Behold your journal as the calm place you go to reflect on your journey, where you can be open and honest with yourself in the privacy of your thoughts.

No matter whether you’re venting frustrations or basking in the glow of a triumph, write it down! Did you achieve a milestone or overcome a desire to retreat to an old habit? How did it feel? Did you have a moment of weakness that needs to be sorted out? Open a dialogue with yourself, removed from the judgement of the outside world.

Don’t forget to write down your specific results. How much do you weigh today? How long has it been since your last cigarette? How much money is in your savings account? How many days consistent are you on your action plan? What benefits have you started to notice?

You will find that consistent journaling during your transformation will yield positive, unexpected results. You will become more in touch with yourself, your progress, how you truly feel, and what is holding you back. You will begin to have a greater understanding of your patterns and why you do the things you do. As time goes on, you’ll be able to reflect more on your journey, and it will become a running history of your pivot, how you transformed from your old self to your new self.

Today, I challenge you to write your first entry. Reach out and let me know how it felt to open a dialogue with yourself using #Transformation and #WalkWithIntention.

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As much as transformation includes starting to do the things we’re not doing, it’s just as important to stop doing the things that are not serving us.

Today, it’s important to stop doing the things that aren’t serving your vision. This can be incredibly difficult, especially with regards to deep-seated patterns of behavior and thoughts we’ve conditioned ourselves to follow over the years.

Make no mistake, this step of transformation will be the hardest part of this process and is probably not going to be fun. Initially, you may fail as much as you succeed. However, practicing your new behaviors and mindset will become instinctual over time. While it will be difficult, I promise it will be worth it!

So how do you do it? Identify, then act. Identify your trouble patterns and abruptly halt the things that need to stop. If you need an accountability partner or group (friends or mentors), or professional help (life coach, support groups, treatment center, etc.), find them! Empower yourself with the tools to get through the pain and discomfort that this leg of your transformation will bring. If your resolve is stronger than your weakness, you will overcome. It’s time to go to battle against your weaknesses. It’s time to take your power back by doing this self-work! You can do it!

As you introduce new patterns and conditions into your life that are aligned with your vision and goals, you will start to gain momentum that gives you strength in moments of weakness. You will begin to realize just how strong and capable you really are; that you have the power to overcome your weaknesses and that you really can do this thing called Transformation.

So today, right now, I challenge you to BREAK THE PATTERN. Identify one thing that needs to stop and put your foot down and stop it TODAY. Feel free to reach out and let me know which pattern you changed and how it felt. Tag your stories with #Transformation #BreakthePattern.

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Step 1: Define Your Vision

Every transformation begins with a vision. Helen Keller once said, “the only thing worse than being blind is having sight, but no vision.” And my goodness was she ever correct!

Sight is a function of the eyes, but vision is a function of the heart’s deepest yearnings.

Learning how to define your heart’s desire is key to developing a vision for your life.

The journey of transformation begins with a clear vision: who do you want to be and where do you want to go?

Vision establishes purpose and helps you determine a destination. Where there is clear vision, a strategy for achievement can be established. One of the greatest sources of significance and satisfaction is walking daily in the strategy of your vision.

Today, I encourage you to take time to imagine what your life will look like when your actions are aligned with the highest vision you have for your life. Write down a series of adjectives that describe what you see. 

Begin to tangibly place your thoughts in front of you with pen and paper. For some, creating a vision board helps them capture thoughts in pictures. Taking steps like these can put you in touch with your deepest desires and bring you closer to defining your life vision.

When you start to discern that you are on the right path, begin to write out a vision statement that is clear, concise, and challenges you to live up to it every day. Memorize it like the back of your hand and make it a part of your affirmations and thought pattern. You deserve to live life with a purpose, on purpose, and having a clear vision for your life is a major key to doing just that! So, what’s next after you’ve defined your vision?

Step 2: Put the Plan Down on Paper

What are you waiting for? It’s time to create a “Transformation Action Plan” and put it down on paper!

 Any type of transformation needs specific steps to chart its course. 

One of my favorite Christian scriptures is Habakkuk 2:2, which challenges us to “write the vision and make it plain, so those who read it can act quickly.” Your action plan needs to be in front of you as a simple and constant reminder of your larger purpose.

Is your transformation physical? Do you want to lose a certain amount of weight or add a certain amount of muscle by a certain date? Do you want to quit smoking or grow spiritually? How about having positive participation in your community? Or is your transformation career-oriented? 

Whatever it is, make sure it’s in alignment with your personal vision statement. Whatever your goals, break it down into manageable steps charted across a span of time that is challenging but realistic.

Once you have your vision defined and the steps charted to achieve it, you’ve taken a HUGE step towards a better life for yourself! This week I challenge you to take the time to define those elements. Because once the vision and action plan is set, it’s time to execute and there’s no going back! It’s not going to be easy, but I promise you it will be worth it.

I’d love to hear about your goals for transformation, what your vision is and how you’re going to achieve it. Feel free to reach out to me and let me know using the hashtag #Transformation!

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Have you ever felt stuck? Like you’ve reached a wall, or even a ceiling in life? Have you ever gotten to a point where clarity is difficult?

I am sure you have. I think many of us share in the feeling of being stuck and the questions of how to get ‘unstuck.’ Many years ago I had an interesting moment in my life where I had reached my financial goal; reached my educational goals; reached my professional goal; and for the most part reached my personal relationship goals. You would think I would have been pretty happy in life huh? But instead I felt stuck and didn’t know why or how to fix it. I shared similar dissatisfactions and emotions of a person who could not advance at their job, or who couldn’t quite reach their goals for other barriers. It didn’t’ make sense to me that I reached most of my goals, but still did not sense fulfillment. The lesson I learned was that linear and vertical ‘stuckness’ are nearly the same thing. If there is no vision past your barriers, in my case, my personal goals, you run the risk of hitting a wall. It is possible to have vision to hit your goals, but not enough vision to live past them. I had to find a way to transform my thinking!

Transformed thinking begins with belief systems. Whenever I notice that Im in a prolonged rut, I take it as an opportunity to personally start searching and looking at the belief system that I am operating in. Sometimes, we are limited by what we believe, as opposed to what has been done to us. Interestingly enough, my goals were my ceiling. I believed myself right up to my goals. When I reached them, I realized that over the years though my production increased, my beliefs didn’t, therefore my goals didn’t. I could not forecast another goal because I did not transform my belief in myself to do so. It is strange to think that I have achieved these goals. It has only been in the past few years that I have really begun to formulate and create new goals based on a different mindset and path. If you are not careful, you can outdo yourself – and get “Stuck” in a different way.

Sometimes, this is not growth; it is just creating the same experience and applying it differently. I equate at times growth & Expansion in the graph listed here. I am more interested, now, more than ever, than challenging myself to get unstuck, and focus on a new, Expansion.

Do you ever get stuck? If so, How do you get Unstuck? Use #WalkWithIntention to share your story.

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Spring is upon us and to me there is something incredibly invigorating about the springtime.

The warm weather, fresh air, out-door activities, new leaves, grass and shrubs etc… to me, springtime is about the new and refreshing. Particularly after a long cold winter, this time of year stimulates my desires for something different. And that almost always includes some form of spring cleaning! Yes, out with the sweaters and coats and in with the shorts and tee’s! However, as a public speaker, often when I talk about spring-cleaning, I am really discussing the idea of reprioritizing; the task of making room at the front of your life for the people, activities and things that matter most. It is not about getting rid of them, but properly prioritizing them in a way that serves both you and those in your life.

Why? Well, because seasonal changes are a part of life. And like the seasons for weather, seasons in your life change regularly. Young people become old people; parents become empty nesters; singles get married; some married get divorced; children are born; jobs are gained, jobs are lost, etc. When seasons shift, some of your priorities will have to shift with it to keep you on balance. The action of reprioritizing is important because it is possible that what was once a help to you one season could be an unnecessary hindrance to you in a different season- kind of like my winter sweaters in the springtime.

I am a big proponent of recognizing and honoring the seasons of life. For me, from time to time, I have to prioritize what matter and who matters, and you need to as well. It’s incredibly important to be able to sift through and re-evaluate areas of importance to you.

Are you carrying too much stress? Too many burdens? Perhaps its time for you to reprioritize some things.

For most people, they aren’t always getting rid of clothing, but moving winter things into storage, while bringing their spring and summer clothes out. So don’t move too quickly. Be thoughtful of your reprioritization and why. It’s not always about jumping into a new season if the existing one has not closed yet. Why move coats and sweaters if it is still cold outside? One thing that works today, may not work in the next season.

All I know for sure is during the process of your own Spring Cleaning, decisions must be made. You might have to throw things out or you might carefully wrap it up and may need it again. Either way, you live with your decisions, you make your bed, and you shift things to meet your needs, in life or in your closet.