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I challenge you to be more and more selfless everyday. Do something nice for someone today whether you think they deserve it or not and blow them away with kindness. You will help someone, feel great about yourself, and receive huge rewards from the ‘great rewarder’ when you do!

A few weeks ago, I went to a children’s party to celebrate my friend’s third birthday. The jumpy houses, face paint, and potty training mishaps were indeed sensory overload for me! In the middle of the chaos and infantile bliss, I noticed four children playing. One of the them was disabled and couldn’t manage the bustle in the same way the others could. Watching the three children help and assist their friend was one of the most heartfelt moments of the party. They did not have pity nor consider themselves inconvenienced by their friend’s disability, but instead adjusted to make sure everyone, including their disabled friend, was having fun. I wonder what life would be like if we were more like those children?

In one of my favorite Christian stories, Jesus is asked which of the commandments was the most important, to which he replied, “the most important is that you should love the Lord with all your heart, mind, and soul, BUT the second command is as important as the first, ‘that you love your neighbor as yourself,’ (Mark 12:30-31). Jesus equates one’s genuine relationship to God with how genuinely and selflessly we handle one another day to day, which means putting others first.

Putting others first is extremely difficult, especially if they aren’t family or friends, or have different beliefs, ethnicity or cultural expressions. But having a pure heart means you look beyond these surface qualities and respond to a human being; a person with feelings, emotions, and desires just like your own. Every person hurts, misses marks, and has legitimate emotional needs to be accepted and loved by the world around them. The idea of approaching people with a consciousness toward our shared humanity is at the center of selflessness. You will never treat someone as yourself if you perceive their needs to be fundamentally different than your own, which they are not.

The amazing effect of selfless action is the power of reciprocity contained in it. Selfless actions reciprocate the goodness selflessness brings. Our selfless gestures are noticed by someone beyond the people we serve: “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and He will repay him for his deed” (Proverbs 19:17). The big man upstairs honors our selfless actions and even promises to intervene on the repayment plan. He guarantees your reciprocal repayment on behalf of the persons who cannot! Wow! That means our natural investments garner divine repayments. And the good thing about a divine repayment is that it comes as exactly what you need, when you need it. That’s a pretty good rate of return if you ask me!

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How is your journey to transformation coming along? Today, I want to emphasize that very rarely is transformation without it’s mistakes and missteps. Moments of weakness are natural, so don’t get discouraged!

I love hard candies, and I’m in a constant battle against my sweet tooth. My dentist agrees and has challenged me to cut way back on the sweets. So, I put a plan together to manage my sugar craving and even went so far as to study why people crave sugar and how I can curb my cravings. I must admit I’ve been doing pretty good for over a year. However, for the past three days, I’ve found myself chowing down on things that are totally against my health goals! It forced me to take a step back and identify my trigger and put a halt to it to get back on track. I’m sharing my story with you because slip-ups happen and I want you to know it’s okay.

Transformation is not about perfection, it’s about direction. If occasionally you misstep, get yourself back on track and keep moving in the right direction. The most important piece to this phase of #Transformation is not giving up!

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As much as transformation includes starting to do the things we’re not doing, it’s just as important to stop doing the things that are not serving us.

Today, it’s important to stop doing the things that aren’t serving your vision. This can be incredibly difficult, especially with regards to deep-seated patterns of behavior and thoughts we’ve conditioned ourselves to follow over the years.

Make no mistake, this step of transformation will be the hardest part of this process and is probably not going to be fun. Initially, you may fail as much as you succeed. However, practicing your new behaviors and mindset will become instinctual over time. While it will be difficult, I promise it will be worth it!

So how do you do it? Identify, then act. Identify your trouble patterns and abruptly halt the things that need to stop. If you need an accountability partner or group (friends or mentors), or professional help (life coach, support groups, treatment center, etc.), find them! Empower yourself with the tools to get through the pain and discomfort that this leg of your transformation will bring. If your resolve is stronger than your weakness, you will overcome. It’s time to go to battle against your weaknesses. It’s time to take your power back by doing this self-work! You can do it!

As you introduce new patterns and conditions into your life that are aligned with your vision and goals, you will start to gain momentum that gives you strength in moments of weakness. You will begin to realize just how strong and capable you really are; that you have the power to overcome your weaknesses and that you really can do this thing called Transformation.

So today, right now, I challenge you to BREAK THE PATTERN. Identify one thing that needs to stop and put your foot down and stop it TODAY. Feel free to reach out and let me know which pattern you changed and how it felt. Tag your stories with #Transformation #BreakthePattern.

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Step 1: Define Your Vision

Every transformation begins with a vision. Helen Keller once said, “the only thing worse than being blind is having sight, but no vision.” And my goodness was she ever correct!

Sight is a function of the eyes, but vision is a function of the heart’s deepest yearnings.

Learning how to define your heart’s desire is key to developing a vision for your life.

The journey of transformation begins with a clear vision: who do you want to be and where do you want to go?

Vision establishes purpose and helps you determine a destination. Where there is clear vision, a strategy for achievement can be established. One of the greatest sources of significance and satisfaction is walking daily in the strategy of your vision.

Today, I encourage you to take time to imagine what your life will look like when your actions are aligned with the highest vision you have for your life. Write down a series of adjectives that describe what you see. 

Begin to tangibly place your thoughts in front of you with pen and paper. For some, creating a vision board helps them capture thoughts in pictures. Taking steps like these can put you in touch with your deepest desires and bring you closer to defining your life vision.

When you start to discern that you are on the right path, begin to write out a vision statement that is clear, concise, and challenges you to live up to it every day. Memorize it like the back of your hand and make it a part of your affirmations and thought pattern. You deserve to live life with a purpose, on purpose, and having a clear vision for your life is a major key to doing just that! So, what’s next after you’ve defined your vision?

Step 2: Put the Plan Down on Paper

What are you waiting for? It’s time to create a “Transformation Action Plan” and put it down on paper!

 Any type of transformation needs specific steps to chart its course. 

One of my favorite Christian scriptures is Habakkuk 2:2, which challenges us to “write the vision and make it plain, so those who read it can act quickly.” Your action plan needs to be in front of you as a simple and constant reminder of your larger purpose.

Is your transformation physical? Do you want to lose a certain amount of weight or add a certain amount of muscle by a certain date? Do you want to quit smoking or grow spiritually? How about having positive participation in your community? Or is your transformation career-oriented? 

Whatever it is, make sure it’s in alignment with your personal vision statement. Whatever your goals, break it down into manageable steps charted across a span of time that is challenging but realistic.

Once you have your vision defined and the steps charted to achieve it, you’ve taken a HUGE step towards a better life for yourself! This week I challenge you to take the time to define those elements. Because once the vision and action plan is set, it’s time to execute and there’s no going back! It’s not going to be easy, but I promise you it will be worth it.

I’d love to hear about your goals for transformation, what your vision is and how you’re going to achieve it. Feel free to reach out to me and let me know using the hashtag #Transformation!

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Have you ever felt stuck? Like you’ve reached a wall, or even a ceiling in life? Have you ever gotten to a point where clarity is difficult?

I am sure you have. I think many of us share in the feeling of being stuck and the questions of how to get ‘unstuck.’ Many years ago I had an interesting moment in my life where I had reached my financial goal; reached my educational goals; reached my professional goal; and for the most part reached my personal relationship goals. You would think I would have been pretty happy in life huh? But instead I felt stuck and didn’t know why or how to fix it. I shared similar dissatisfactions and emotions of a person who could not advance at their job, or who couldn’t quite reach their goals for other barriers. It didn’t’ make sense to me that I reached most of my goals, but still did not sense fulfillment. The lesson I learned was that linear and vertical ‘stuckness’ are nearly the same thing. If there is no vision past your barriers, in my case, my personal goals, you run the risk of hitting a wall. It is possible to have vision to hit your goals, but not enough vision to live past them. I had to find a way to transform my thinking!

Transformed thinking begins with belief systems. Whenever I notice that Im in a prolonged rut, I take it as an opportunity to personally start searching and looking at the belief system that I am operating in. Sometimes, we are limited by what we believe, as opposed to what has been done to us. Interestingly enough, my goals were my ceiling. I believed myself right up to my goals. When I reached them, I realized that over the years though my production increased, my beliefs didn’t, therefore my goals didn’t. I could not forecast another goal because I did not transform my belief in myself to do so. It is strange to think that I have achieved these goals. It has only been in the past few years that I have really begun to formulate and create new goals based on a different mindset and path. If you are not careful, you can outdo yourself – and get “Stuck” in a different way.

Sometimes, this is not growth; it is just creating the same experience and applying it differently. I equate at times growth & Expansion in the graph listed here. I am more interested, now, more than ever, than challenging myself to get unstuck, and focus on a new, Expansion.

Do you ever get stuck? If so, How do you get Unstuck? Use #WalkWithIntention to share your story.

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It doesn’t seem that long ago that I was sitting in a circle with a group of athletes and professionals.  

We discussed things unfolding in our lives- sometimes good- sometimes bad. The room was our space to keep it real, and have a tribe who was there for each other.  We created a think tank where we could hold each other – as athletes and professionals, and thought leaders accountable. We would have dinner. We would laugh. We would think. We shared our ideas about what was really going on. I loved that room. The energy was dynamic. Yet, each week I would leave that room a bit empty, because deep in my gut I knew that most of the ideas that populated the air would go no further than that room after we left.

Dr. Miles Munroe had an interesting quote that summed this up well

“The wealthiest places in the world are not gold mines, oil fields, diamond mines or banks. The wealthiest place is the cemetery. There lies companies that were never started, masterpieces that were never painted…

In an interesting way, that was our room. We left world changing ideas in that room. Until one day I realized that I had an ability to do something about it. My lot in life has been the ability to wake up people’s dreams. I motivate people, I inspire, and I challenge people into action. And one day, I started to challenge these great men not to leave their dreams in sleep mode. I reminded them that everyone has the ability to fulfill those ideas, not just think of them. And slowly, over time guys started putting action to their ideas.

As I challenged that room, I now challenge you – it’s time for your dream to get out of your head and into the real world! It’s time for the world to experience you.

Your dream emanates from a deep space in your passions and ultimately is designed to solve a practical or spiritual problem in this world. Holding back on fulfilling your dream is also holding back a solution that could lead to someone’s happiness, peace or fulfillment. Your dream fulfilled could be the guiding light someone needs to solve an issue that has been holding them back. Your dream fulfilled could also be key to your personal wealth and your personal sense of significance.

What have you been dreaming and desiring that you haven’t gotten out of your head? What are you waiting for? Don’t know how? Well if the intention is there the how will appear. Be intentional about pursuing your dream and the pieces that will make it work will gradually but consistently show up. What can you do to wake up your dreams today?

Tag & Shout me out with #WalkWithIntention to Share your Story.

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Spring is upon us and to me there is something incredibly invigorating about the springtime.

The warm weather, fresh air, out-door activities, new leaves, grass and shrubs etc… to me, springtime is about the new and refreshing. Particularly after a long cold winter, this time of year stimulates my desires for something different. And that almost always includes some form of spring cleaning! Yes, out with the sweaters and coats and in with the shorts and tee’s! However, as a public speaker, often when I talk about spring-cleaning, I am really discussing the idea of reprioritizing; the task of making room at the front of your life for the people, activities and things that matter most. It is not about getting rid of them, but properly prioritizing them in a way that serves both you and those in your life.

Why? Well, because seasonal changes are a part of life. And like the seasons for weather, seasons in your life change regularly. Young people become old people; parents become empty nesters; singles get married; some married get divorced; children are born; jobs are gained, jobs are lost, etc. When seasons shift, some of your priorities will have to shift with it to keep you on balance. The action of reprioritizing is important because it is possible that what was once a help to you one season could be an unnecessary hindrance to you in a different season- kind of like my winter sweaters in the springtime.

I am a big proponent of recognizing and honoring the seasons of life. For me, from time to time, I have to prioritize what matter and who matters, and you need to as well. It’s incredibly important to be able to sift through and re-evaluate areas of importance to you.

Are you carrying too much stress? Too many burdens? Perhaps its time for you to reprioritize some things.

For most people, they aren’t always getting rid of clothing, but moving winter things into storage, while bringing their spring and summer clothes out. So don’t move too quickly. Be thoughtful of your reprioritization and why. It’s not always about jumping into a new season if the existing one has not closed yet. Why move coats and sweaters if it is still cold outside? One thing that works today, may not work in the next season.

All I know for sure is during the process of your own Spring Cleaning, decisions must be made. You might have to throw things out or you might carefully wrap it up and may need it again. Either way, you live with your decisions, you make your bed, and you shift things to meet your needs, in life or in your closet.

The Supreme Court has spoken. Same Sex Marriage is now legal in all 50 states. As a citizen of the United States, I respect the way that our constitution works. Same Sex Marriage under the law was an inevitable concept. However, I highly question if it is the right direction for our society or any society for that matter?

I personally do not have a problem reconciling my Christian faith with this decision. As I understand scripture, the Bible, I hold fast that traditional marriage, between male and female, is a religious right, a God concept, and is the highest form of human fidelity. A Court’s ruling, even the highest Courts ruling, will not change that belief. Our country long ago ceased to be governed by the pattern of scripture and reading of those scriptures in school house throughout the land. Today is a game changer though for our nation. No matter how disappointing this decision may be for those of us who still hold fast to the Bible, it is now the law of the land. Now what? We as church leaders have become expert at growing our churches, creating brands for more speaking engagements, and offering a weekly praise “experience” at our churches. It is clear that we know how to do ‘our’ thing, but here is a real question we need to consider: How do we as Believers begin to integrate ourselves back into the conversations that guide our national dialogue?

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As we mourn, filter through our emotions and reflect on the recent tragedy in Charleston South Carolina I was challenged with what response I personally should give as a black man and a pastor. Then as a local church. The thought pattern became more intriguing when I thought about what response the unified church should give. The following are a few thoughts about what I believe the church should do in response to the shootings. This list is not exhaustive or a end all, but a start.

 

  1. Talk About Race: This is the perfect time and place to talk about race relations in America….AGAIN. If you consider that its the south, a terrorist act against a black church, and 9 black people dead at the hands of a racist white man, you cannot help but draw historical parallels with the 16th Baptist church bombings and the general disregard for black life. Feels like we are back at the beginning. Perhaps the reset should be a restart of a conversation between black Americans and white Americans, and honestly white Americans with other white Americans, that we and they have not fully had.

 

  1. The Humility to Repent: Racism is a difficult conversation for everyone, but particularly for white Americans. But there can be no true healing without an acknowledgement of fault from those at fault. A full admission too. It is both courageous and humble to acknowledge historical and ancestoral wrongs to those whom have been violated. There is no true healing when we medicate a symptom. Repentance is the only pathway to true healing. If I had my way, Id like to see prominent white pastors acknowledge the issue, accept a historical responsibility to it and participate in the strategy for healing- then teach about it from their pulpits.

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50 years ago this weekend (March 7, 1965), at the foot of the Edmund Pettis Bridge in Selma, Alabama, 600 civil rights activists attempted to execute a peaceful march from Selma to the Alabama state capital of Montgomery. This march was to be a public, but peaceful show of defiance against the segregationist repression that violated black American citizens and their right to vote. However, after leaving Selma no one could have ever imagined the scene that would happen next. Alabama state troopers and county law enforcement together attacked the unarmed marchers with Billy clubs and tear gas. Men, women, elderly were voraciously beaten and attacked until they were pushed back to the other side of the bridge. To this day one of the most publicized media photos of Bloody Sunday is that of Amelia Boynton lying unconscious in the street from the attack. The offense was considered so violent that the event was earned the nickname “Bloody Sunday.”

As a believer in Christ and an advocate/activist of sorts, I have an abiding call to justice and a healthy respect for overlooked watershed moments. These are the events, the words, or the actions that are critical to a movement but are not as visibly recognized outside of the insider circles. Bloody Sunday was such. As the years have passed that dreadful day has been washed out or in some circles blended in to such a degree that its significance has been hard to find. However, Selma proved the metal of the civil rights movement. Selma put the violence response to the movement on national television. Selma publically showed the Jewish community a committed ally with the Black community -they were not just willing to fund her, but to willing suffer with her. Selma invited the nation into the nightmare black Americans were experiencing. Selma ultimately helped tip the White House to finally craft the bill that would later pass and become the Voting Rights Act of 1965. Selma cannot be lost or forgotten in our quest for equal freedoms, for I fear that lovers of justice will again be tested in future generations. The lessons of Selma are on your side.

Note from me: this is not my usual blog style blog and I will get back to all the motivational/inspirational stuff next month- but when RESPECT is deserved, it should be given. I pause to respect the movement, the Selma Marches and the participants in particular and its 50 years of significance.

If you want to learn more: Oprah Winfrey’s Selma, a depiction of the Selma events was an awesome and a fantastic cinematic piece to enjoy. However, equally as moving is the award-winning documentary Eyes on The Prize. This is a 14 hour documentary has more time to lay out the context and significance and history of civil rights events. Hint: episode six is wholly dedicated to the Selma marches and Bloody Sunday. God bless!

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